Heres How to Rewire Your Brain To Bounce Back From Setbacks Faster And Easier

Heres How to Rewire Yur Brain To Bounce Back From Setbacks Faster And Easier According to Linda Graham, psychotherapist and author ofBouncing Back, resilience is The capacity to respond to pressures and tragedies quickly, adaptively and effectively.So why do we need to be resilient?Its inevitable that in our lifetimes, circumstances will come along that throw us off track. We can lose a jobor lose a loved one. We can argue with a coworkeror discover weve been betrayed at the deepest level by someone we trusted. We can be struggling with financesor receive news that forever changes our lives in an instant. Some of these circumstances are easy enough to bounce back from while others can completely derail us. How we handle these life events has a lot to do with our wiring, our beliefs, our worldview, our thoughts, and our conditioning.Related5 Ways to Bounce Back from Disappointment at WorkWhile we used to believe that our brains were fixed by around age 25, the great news is, through n europlasticity, we can rewire our brain to harness new ways of coping hardwiring us so that we can more easily adapt and recover from the less severe stressors as well as recover from trauma.The more I learn about the brain, the more I respect this amazing organ and its capacity. Years ago I was a believer that we are who we are and Ive since learned that while who we are may have been shaped by lots of influences like family, how we were raised, what weve experienced and more, we are in complete control of either staying the same, or changing our brain and propelling forward if we choose to.So how do we do that?Thats what Ill be covering in this blog series but to start, here are the ways the brain is conditionedConditioningThis is what the brain does all the time, on its own when were going about our day. This is the result of repeated thoughts which over time, have become unconscious beliefs. For example, have you ever noticed how you seem to respond to a particular scenario the same way time after time? Thats conditioning.New ConditioningHeres where we learn a new way to work with the brain. Maybe we begin a mindfulness practice, we start to journal, meditate or begin a gratitude practice. Were creating new wiring which opens the door to a new perspective and new way to think, act, and react.ReconditioningHeres where we actually rewire the brain. Instead of those triggers which would normally ignite our stress response, were choosing to use those new practices weve been learning to lesson the emotional charge the stressors previously caused. For example, and in a very simplified way, maybe when you think of your ex-partner, you feel angry, bitter and resentful. With reconditioning, youre choosing to use one of the tools and strategies you learned through new conditioning so that the power of the positive emotion you learned through your mindfulness practice for example, is stronger than the negative charge you feel when thinking about your ex. At the very moment youd normally go to that automatic and negative response, you choose a different response to create a different outcome. Over time, the negative experience loses its emotional charge. The memory will mucksmuschenstill be there, but the impact and hold it has over you has lost its grip.DeconditioningHeres where were daydreaming, visualizing and open to new possibilities because were using the insights were receiving during these mentally relaxed times to implement change. For example, that insight now available to you because of the clarity youre feeling as a result of your new meditation practice, has an opportunity to be formulated and created.RelatedThree Types of Mindsets that Prevent You From Succeeding at WorkBecoming more resilient allows us to better handle how we respond, and handle the challenges we face. Stay tuned for ways to increase your resilience, and hardwire the brain in ways that support you and bring you closer to the body, health, life, mindset and lifesty le you want most.Have you started a new conditioning process, like journaling or a mindfulness practice? Wed love to know, comment and share--This article originally appeared on EllevateNetwork.com.